Baby shower Etiquette – Antiquated!!!

[ad#336×280]I have come to the conclusion that some people are far too concerned with old school proper etiquette.

I have researched how or whether I will get chewed out for having to help my step children to do my shower.  The Baby Shower Board on one particular site thinks I will look like a greedy mommy to be, even having to help financially is clearly a no-no, and that having to assist in the receiving of RSVP calls is also very very wrong and to have any part of the shower is just in very bad taste….and think that having men is just inappropriate.

Other sites – not going to name them – have blatantly said that it is becoming more common for the Mommy and Daddy to be the host, pay for and plan then entire thing, not for the gifting matter but because they were the hosts of many other gatherings and are looking to involve family and celebrate a little with them before the LO arrives and consumes their every waking moment.

From my approach I was screwed over by an in law that claimed I would have the shower at her home, she would be decorating as dictated by my choice of theme, and provide some of the foods and music.  Now out of no-where she has totally backed out after I alerted my entire family in NJ that I would be able to see them as a group at my shower on Oct 9th.  So I was left with my face pale and white.  My wonderful but young – in college and cluelessly innocent step kids would love to be able to do this shower hook line and sinker but obviously have no idea the first thing about even having a dinner party – self admittedly.

Etiquette in some – ok many forms – is clearly antiquated at this point in human history.  I think it is coming to the point in our evolution of social standards that we develop a more understanding and accepting view of etiquette.

I mean for crying out loud if women were still seen as harlots for wearing pant suits and jeans – we would be screaming and hopping mad.  Or how about anything white after labor day?  Really????

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I believe that we have come far enough to take some things like same sex marriage into the 21st century – but hosting your own baby shower instead of coping out and calling it a “Meet the Baby Party” after our peanuts are born is somehow the worst thing imaginable.

Hosting your own shower with the pretense that you will accommodate your family and friends with a registry if they are asking for one – so that you can truly talk and spend time with them before your due date is a more advanced level of caring for and tending to your baby’s needs.  You will not be taking the attention they will need in the first months to do random parties but you will be there to tend to them, get them on a schedule and keep them safer from diseases and illness.  I mean last I knew – subways in NYC have fecal matter on the straps we hang onto and I’m thinking that allowing my family – after touching these things to touch and hug my infant is more risky than to keep them safe long enough.

I see this stance of mine as a right for any woman to do.  If a couple has best intentions in mind for family and baby then no one has a right to say poor taste or anything else for that matter.  If they are footing the bill – then it isn’t about the gifts – its about a celebration of the female human spirit and the strength they have inside to create, carry and birth another human being.